How can you help your child with fears like these?Ignoring or belittling their fears is not going to help kids overcome these fears. For kids, these are very real fears that need to be addressed and taken care of. Monsters under the bed may be imaginary but laughing at them or tough love approach may not make them go away and you will have a child who is
scared but has no outlet to express themselves. However, giving in to their fears and appeasement is not going to help either. For instance, if a child is afraid of dogs, letting that fear be and keeping them out of all situations with dogs is not recommended either.
Let the love be unconditional – Withholding approval may seem like withholding love especially to growing kids. So the punishment for undesirable actions and praise for what we feel is desirable are both making the love conditional. They will look for praise or rewards in the case of positive reinforcement, and look to avoid unpleasantness in the case of punishment.
Instead of praise try description – Hey, I see you did your homework! Cleaned your plate! Or whatever they did is much better than effusive praise for doing what they must do to grow up well.
Girls and boys are made of the same things. But as they grow up, they do not always have the same challenges to face. Well-intentioned parents an also at times be unwitting participants to lowering their little girl's confidence. (Yes we understand we need parenting tips for both sexes, but since its about Girl power this month, we are focussing more on little girls)
However, confidence can be encouraged states expert opinion, even in the face of a world that seems intimidating to little girls and tells them, not to be loud, to not be bossy, behave as girls should and gift them gender specific items, all very helpfully.
Experts say that when we do things for our kids, we are essentially telling them that they are not capable of doing it themselves. When they get a math sum wrong, we sit with them and make them redo it for as long as it takes. Yet, we snatch the wipeout of their hands and clean up the milk spill at the first sign of ineptitude.
As they grow up they get used to being waited on, not expected to do anything in a family they are a part of, and if we try and teach them something at that point, it’s easier to rebel against the life they are not used to. So how can we do something right from the start that they will look at their share of work and chores as being a supportive part of a family? What is the best way to raise responsible adults? Giving kids responsibility for their actions, their belongings, and their home has to start young.